In life, there are little lies that we tell ourselves to make ourselves feel better when we are afraid of moving forward. Singing is no different. There are singing myths that we hold to that are holding you back as a singer.
In a recent post, I delved into the myths that are perpetuated by some singing coaches that are ruining your voice. In this post, I am going to dive into the ones that you need to stop telling yourself.
Singing Myth #1: You don’t have enough time to practice
If you’re really honest with yourself, you know that is just an excuse you use when you go to rehearsal and don’t know your repertoire. To be fair, I’m sure it’s not because you don’t care, but because you don’t have a plan.
In my experience, the students who practice are the ones who schedule it into their daily routine.
I’m sure you’ve heard the old adage that you don’t find time, you make time, right? I dislike that saying. It implies that if you don’t make time for something, then you don’t really care about it. But that’s not true. It can matter to you a great deal, but perhaps your time is just disorganized.
It’s like this: Imagine you have papers scattered all over your kitchen table. (If you’re like me, then maybe there’s no imagination involved, because my kitchen table really is a mess, but I digress.) It can be difficult to locate a single piece of important paper.
Now imagine that you organized all those papers into manageable, sensible piles- one for bills, one for important school documents, one for grocery coupons, etc. Much easier to figure out where that paper is now, right?
The same thing can be done with your time. When I stick to a schedule, I have all the time in world to get everything done, including practicing. It’s true that I do go through periods of time where I just don’t know where my time went, and I got nothing done. Because my time wasn’t organized, just like my kitchen table. It’s perfectly natural to fall off the horse, sometimes. The important thing is getting back up and on it.
But first you gotta get on that horse. You have to learn How to Create a Daily Practice Schedule You Can Actually Follow. In that post, you’ll get the exact steps that I took to go from completely chaotic days to actually keeping my practicing commitment to myself (and getting the rest of my life in order, bonus!). Plus, there’s a handy planner you can download and use for yourself!
Singing Myth #2: People who sing solos don’t have stage fright
Here’s another little lie that singers tell themselves.
I have a confession to make: to this day, even after over a decade of choir and solo singing, I still have stage fright. In fact, it happened to me on the last Friday night in June.
I was performing in a concert to benefit a local charity. Even though I practiced the crap out of my solos, I was nervous to get on that stage. There I was, a seasoned singer, who’s sung solos over a hundred times, still nervous. I knew that I knew every note, every rhythm, every word, and every expression.
I walked on that stage and in the midst of performing my solo, still doubt crept in that I would mess something up.
What’s my point?
My point is that beating stage fright does not mean that you won’t be nervous when you get up to sing.
It means that, despite your nerves, you have the strength to get up there and do it anyway.
But how do you get yourself to a point where you can push yourself to do that? Baby Steps.
Every time you have a small win, that builds your confidence to take on slightly larger challenges. Even if you don’t succeed at that larger challenge, just like an actual muscle, the strength that you built from the smaller wins doesn’t disappear. Each time you face a new challenge, regardless of whether or not you beat it, your confidence muscle gets a work out.
Download my Guide to “Singing with Confidence: How to Overcome Your Stage Fright” where I share with you 8 simple steps to gaining the confidence to beat your stage fright.